Abang Y is my second cousin but he can easily pass as my dad. Yes, he's about two and a half decades older than me. He calls my dad (who's probably about a decade older than him) "Pak Teh", hence I call him the 'Abang' title.
Naturally, Abang Y's children are of my age (and younger). The eldest, N, who is now in London (have settled down there), is 3 years older than I am. Her second daughter is my age - my friend. We have always called each other by name, ergo, nothing's a big deal here.
But now, N has a daughter who's about my children's ages. And I am now considered a grandma to her. Euuucchhhh!!!!! The dad actually referred me as the 'Wan', and I just couldn't believe my ears. Is this for real? Am I in denial? Why does it all sound so bad? Oh dear... I never really thought that I'd be like this. After all, I am only "half-past thirty" (borrowing a dear friend's words). Can't she just call me Mak Su, like my other nieces and nephews, or Aunty, like my friends' children?
So, okay, I am now a granny. I've been playing around with the options: Wan, Nenek, Opah (Mr D suggested this - No Way!!), Wan Su, Nek Su, Granny, Nanny .. HaHaHa. Nope, if I'm getting a grandmother title, I'm doing it the Malay way. I'm not going to be a nanny (translated: trained person to look after children). Hence, the quest begins... for the most suitable title to carry; not very glamorous yet containing enough charm. Errr, what charm can a grandmother possibly have? *sigh*
Now, the biggest joke is my kids have suddenly discovered that they are Uncles and Aunt!! My Little D can't help laughing away to think that he's Uncle Dean now. No, they get to be children and omit the titles.
What do you think? Are titles important, or should we just call each other by name, just like the Mat Saleh?