Showing posts with label Islam. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Islam. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Allah's Amanah

Let me first start with a personal note to fellow bloggers who have been leaving comments in my past posts - sorry, I never seem to have the time to respond to them. To those who have ordered books, please email me: p2reflect(at)yahoo(dot)co(dot)uk and leave me your details. InsyaAllah I will post more details next month regarding Sis Zabrina's books as I have agreed to become her UK distributor. To those who have been kind enough to leave me a prayer and good words, jazakallahu khairan kathira.

The topic I find very intriguing now concerns the issue of bringing up children. They are the amanah from Allah - choosing the perfect parents for the right children. By perfect, of course I don't mean absolute perfection. From the very beginning - how the parents are matched and united through matrimony, right down to the delivery and upbringing of the child - He knows best.


The trials of life come in many forms and of course, when bringing up children, many factors are involved. As Muslims, we aim to be good parents who are able to provide our children with the best Islamic education and healthiest Halal food in the best Islamic environment. Well, at least that's my personal aims and intentions.


Being a single parent now, I find the post as sole-director quite taxing. It can be rather stressful for the mind, body and soul. I have, since the beginning, opted to keep life as simple as it can be; i.e: to make life stress-free, or at least to minimise it! Hence, to do this I found myself restriciting ourselves to our homes, minimising any possible stress by taking part in anything 'different'. Surely, there were those challenging moments that shook me and scared me, such as the trip to Dublin and the car accident!


However, a few weeks ago I realised that my self-protection was affecting my children. Because mommy was single-handedly managing things and was too tired or not up to some of the activities they suggested, they couldn't do the things they used to do when daddy was around. What did I do about it then? I stepped out slowly... Though very difficult, I do find it a little refreshing. So, even without daddy to be the manager, mommy has managed to do some of the things the little darlings (and not so little) have requested. Well, of course, the issue of budget is another matter. Still, Alhamdulillah we have managed to pull through.
Alhamdulillah I have been fortunate enough to be given opportunities to meet and share experiences with people from all walks of life. Valuable experiences come from single parents (divorcees and widows), ladies in their second marriages, ladies in polygamy and also ladies who have been tested in many different aspects, including health. At the end of the day, I must somehow say that men and women are totally different creations of the Lord and this involves the complicated womanly emotions - which Allah has bestowed to women. So, in most aspects, only a woman understands another.
By talking to these wonderful women, I have found that I am so human - my horrible emotions is a sign that I am His humble creation. There is only one key to it all and that is to trust Him in everything we do, or in other words, tawakkal.
With reminders and reassurances that everything happens for a reason, I pick up my gears and gather my children together, holding their hands and walk into the future, completely leaving the unknown to Him. I recall an advice given by a kind brother who I met a few weeks after I came home. This is roughly what he said,
"Please look after your children well. They are the amanah from Allah ta'ala. They are now orphans and Allah has promised that whoever looks after orphans will be promised Jannah."
Subhannallah... They are not just my children now(lent to me, of course), but their status have been upgraded to orphans, who offer opportunities for others to get closer to Him.
Although often drowned by feelings of exasperation (those who have children or have seen my children in action will know how active they are!), I remind myself that the only thing that keeps them guided and together is me, with Allah's will. They all require different psychological approaches; the twins as the older ones (always having to share and give in), Princess as the only girl (very tender and emotional, and who no longer has her daddy who dotes on her) and Little D who is the baby of the family (he thinks he can charm everyone with his smile!).
I was never a good parent, and now I am their only parent! May Allah help us all in bringing up our children with greatest fear and faith in Him, InsyaAllah...
(Have been reading and reading on Islamic parenting)

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Tagged: An Islamic meme

Nadia, a high-school junior of mine tagged me this interesting meme (sorry it took me so long, Nadia - have some targets to meet). It's all about what inspires you as a Muslim - one Quranic verse, one hadith, one Muslim man (other than Rasulullah), one Muslim woman, one contemporary Muslim, and Islam in general. It also requires you to think of your own contribution as a Muslim to inspire others. Let me however warn you that some of the things I will be writing here are things I have mentioned already in the past. Repetition is not meant to bore, but merely to reinforce my own belief.

Rules:

1) Answer the following questions (7 in total)

2) Post on your blog with link to who tagged you

3) Tag a minimum of three other bloggers and include links to their blog in your tag. Make sure to let them know you’ve tagged them too.


Meme Questions:
1) What Qur’anic verse do you find most inspiring and why? What does it mean to you personally?

وَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ وَكَفَى بِاللَّهِ وَكِيلًا

And put your trust and reliance in Allah, and sufficient is Allah as a Trustee. (Al-Ahzab 33:3)


The concept of Tawakkal is oft heard and learnt since my younger days - total surrendering to the Almighty after great effort on our part. Alhamdulillah, the meaning now goes deeper than that, and after experiencing His greatness, I now understand (past entry on this).

I have now (why has it taken so long??) made Him as my best friend, whom I totally trust and turn to at all times. Previously, I made my late husband as my best friend - for he was mine, so I thought. Of course, I believed in the Almighty, and knew that He could take anyone anytime. I also believed that things had to be done Lillahita'ala, oh yes I did. What didn't occur to me at that point of time was how lonely I'd be without my best friend by my side anymore, despite the many wonderful friends and family all around! That's when I realised: "And trust and rely on the Living One (Allah), Who will never die, and celebrate His praises and thanks. And Sufficient is He to be acquainted with the sins of His slaves." (Surah Al-Furqan 25:58)

The more we rely on Him, the greater the chances that we will try to please Him by following the guidance He has given us, which in turn will lead to goodness in this world and success in the Hereafter. Isn't that just amazing? By fully trusting in Allah and relying on Him, I am just not depressed by what I have lost, or intoxicated by whatever I have achieved, or even troubled by what I have yet to encounter. Everything is in Allah's hands. And that should be enough to make me not only humbler but more submissive to God, thus a better believer, InsyaAllah.


2) What Hadith (Qudsi or Sunnah of the Prophet salalahi alahi wa salaam) do you find most inspiring and why?

Hadith Qudsi 16:
On the authority of son of Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both), from the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), among the sayings he related from his Lord (glorified and exalted be He) is that He said:

Allah has written down the good deeds and the bad ones. Then He explained it [by saying that] he who has intended a good deed and has not done it, Allah writes it down with Himself as a full good deed, but if he has intended it and has done it, Allah writes it down with Himself as from ten good deeds to seven hundred times, or many times over. But if he has intended a bad deed and has not done it, Allah writes it down with Himself as a full good deed, but if he has intended it and has done it, Allah writes it down as one bad deed.

(related by al-Bukhari and Muslim)
This hadith shows us how obvious Allah loves us - His creations - to no end. I am inspired by the Rahman and Rahiim that is illustrated through the hadith. It is so easy to score using His system, isn't it? To think that we humans always argue and fight for equal rights, demanding anything and everything possible. Does this hadith reflect the sense of equality we humans fight for, or tit for tat?

In our daily lives, this is what we should be practising too: to acknowledge a good move or intention by a child, friend, acquaintance or any other being, with praises and words of encouragement. On the other hand, a mistake or negative act should not be condemned and highlighted for sheer embarrassment or amusement ('aib). Generate more good deeds and then InsyaAllah we'll be blessed in this world and the hereafter.


3) Other than the Prophet himself salallahi alaihi wa salaam - what Muslim man do you find most inspiring and why?

I have always been inspired by the character of Saidina 'Uthman ibn 'Affan since a child that my admiration for him continues till today. He was the fourth man to embrace Islam, and the third of the four caliphs. I am truly inspired by the great virtues in him; a very wealthy and generous person. For instance, in one of the battles against the Romans, he contributed 200 ounces of gold as charity, 1,000 dinars, 900 camels and 100 horses in total. Rasulullah was very touched at 'Uthman's sincerity that the prophet reassured him that from that day onwards, nothing will harm `Uthman regardless of what he does.

How can I not be inspired by a gesture so pure and refreshing? Nowadays, there are so many wealthy people around but donations must always be publicised. How many of us (me included) would never hesitate to contribute ANYTHING and EVERYTHING for others simply for the sake of the religion and Allah swt? Sometimes we are too selfish with our possessions, which are ironically, not even ours. Yes, 'Uthman ibn 'Affan should certainly be made a role model.

4) Who is the most inspiring Muslim woman to you and why?

I am attracted to strong characters and Saidatina Khadijah is one strong character I totally admire. Okay, so we share the same name - perhaps that's how I became so fond of her. But Khadijah portrayed a woman of strong personality which women today (especially those who take Women's Liberty to fancy) should pay more attention to.

She was 40 when she married Muhammad, aged 25. She was the prominent one - the successful and wealthy businesswoman who employed Muhammad. So intrigued was she by his honesty and diligence that she felt he was the one worthy of her - so much that she proposed to him herself! (There you go ladies - chuck the perigi cari timba saying). You see, Khadijah had been married twice before and had lost both her husbands in the wars. So, she had basically decided earlier that she was never ever going to marry for the third time, for fear of being widowed again. All that changed when she met her perfect match - Muhammad!

When Muhammad became prophet at the age of 40, she became his pillar of strength and support throughout all the difficulties and hurdles he went through. As the last prophet, Allah had provided him with the best woman to help him during his trying times. She was the FIRST to embrace Islam.

The greatness of Khadijah's personality is truly evident in how Rasulullah projects her. The year she died was called Year of Sorrow - and she was undeniably Rasulullah's favourite. He took no other wife till after her death. Aaah... true love!

Why am I inspired? I don't want to just bear the name I have. I want to have the same qualities and traits of this righteous woman - the best wife in the world; among the four greatest women in the whole world. Subhanallah...

5) What CONTEMPORARY (i.e., living) Muslim do you find most inspiring and why?

Hmm... Let's see. I'm going back home into our backyards for this. One contemporary Muslim I find most inspiring just has to be Nik Aziz Nik Mat, the Chief Minister of the only Muslim state in Malaysia. Why shouldn't he be, as his lifestyle reflects Islam as the true Deen - the way of life. Humble and amanah, he runs his daily life just like any other citizen, without splashing out on luxuries of mansions finished with marble and gold. He is a man with qualifications that could easily fill up a wall yet never so greedy to obtain more than his fair amount of share.

Why I admire Nik Aziz does not have anything to do with my political stand in Malaysia. Nonetheless, I can't help thinking, if every leader - politically inclined or not, were like him, then surely we'd get to lead our life the way we should - Lillahi ta'ala, for the hereafter. How can I not be inspired by such moderate living by someone who sets as an exemplar to us all? Having watched a recent YouTube documentary on him, I am determined to aim for one of his practices: to perform the Dhuha prayers before the start of each day. Isn't that just wonderful? I may not have a state to rule, but I do have other responsibilities important to me - to Him we surrender, to Him we beg for forgiveness and guidance in life.

6) How has Islam inspired you in your daily life?

How can it not, when Islam is the only thing that has made sense in every single step or happening I have treaded on in life? I have been shown the light as through solat and du'a, the ummah is always behind me - with Allah's help and will. Allah loves us all, and although we feel so alone, we never really are.
I look at everything around me, good or bad, and everything just points to the mightiness of Allah swt. Not inspired enough? Then there's definitely something wrong with the Imaan...

7) If you could do anything at all to inspire others through Islam, how would you do it?

I would love to inspire others with every move I make! Islam is the way of life. If only I can live my life as a Muslim should, then I hope that would inspire others to link up with me. Let's work on it together because in this world we live together. Shouldn't we help one another, inspire one another and build a better life and world together? Unfortunately, I still have a lot to work on before I can really inspire anyone!!
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I hereby tag 3 others (if only I could tag more!!):

1) rd (who I believe has interesting facts to share)

2) AZ (another high-school junior)

3) al-amiNJ (for a man's point of view)

Friday, February 23, 2007

time to spare?

Still on the topic of time. thought I'd share this. There's an interesting link I'm putting up for anyone who has about 45 mins to spare. I know, it's long but if you have the time, try it out: Islamic Tube. American reality programme featuring 30 days as a Muslim. I hope Dave gets some hidayah through his experience!