Wednesday, October 29, 2008

When the date of birth is the same as the date of death



In the last entry, I stated the mark of a hijrah year of the demise of my late husband. Today, I am writing to indicate the date as on the gregorian calendar: his date of birth, and his date of death. Significant? Perhaps, but it is just another date, a coincidence.

The children (especially Princess) remember their daddy's date of birth without requiring me to prompt them. This was the dialogue Little D and I had during the weekend:

Mommy, can you bake a cake on Abah's birthday?

Er... I guess so - I can bake you a cake any day, you know? But Abah's no longer with us. How do we celebrate a birthday if the person is no longer alive?

We can bring the cake to the graveyard and eat the cake there. Then, we can cut a slice and leave it there for Abah.

(The whole room breaks into laughter)

Dean, you know that is a waste of time and good cake, don't you? The cake is for us - the living. You know Abah can't have it. What more, such action is just like what the non-Muslims do: offering food and other material objects to the dead or to their so-called god. Muslims don't do that. We can instead read the Yaasin together as a present for Abah, okay?

Okay, mommy... And he smiles sheepishly, But we can still have the cake, right?

And with that, I had to deal with a set of other encyclopaedic questions...

16 comments:

aNIe said...

Salam D...memang ramai yang 'pergi' meninggalkan org2 tersayang pada tarikh hari lahir mereka...segalanya adalah ketentuan ALLAH...

Terasa kejap aje masa berlalu...tapi bagi D mungkin hari2 tanpanya adalah hari2 penuh kerinduan...dan bila orang merindu...masa tu terasa lambat berlalu...

ALFATIHAH buat arwah...semoga rohnya ditempatkan bersama orang2 yang soleh...Ameen

Kak Teh said...

Children! But its wonderful that they think that way.
Al Fatehah.

pizah said...

i'm your silent admirer... kagum dgn cara u yang tabah hadapi hidup. i also like the way put the story into words.... facinating to read.
my late dad pun meninggal on the same date birthday dia. pemergian dia so sudden sbb heart attack that make me ada sikit rasa regret sbb quite lama jugak sebelum tu tak balik kampung. Just a phone call to wish him birthday masa pagi tu n kul 11 mlm dia dah tak de. Semoga Allah tempatkan my dad n your hubby dikalangan org2 yang mendapat rahmatNya.

mad redo1 said...

the good deeds that will be done by his off-springs would continue to contribute to arwah's good deeds on this earth.

that would definitely a better 'cake' for him.

al-Fatihah.

myheartbleeds said...

Al-Fatehah.

I love this pic!! B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L. I can feel the lovvvveeee... ;-)

Kak Elle said...

innocent children sometimes they are the ones who wake us up:)

hugs

mamasita said...

Lovely set of children..sad and sorry your husband dah takde.Your eternal and deep love for him is so heartfelt.Take care and be happy always.

Anonymous said...

Time pass so quick... And Dean is so thoughtful..

Al fatihah

AnggerikM

Anonymous said...

It makes me feel so humbled, each time after reading your posts. My doa for you & your children.
Al-fatihah for the arwah.

Rina from Cheltenham.

nikfarizah said...

Such a beautiful family...Al-fatihah

Iza-Zulkifli said...

Al-Fatihah. Semoga rohnya sentiasa dicucuri rahmat Allah dan ditempatkan di kalangan orang-orang yang beriman dan dikasihNya. Amin.

Qimy said...

d,

been a silent reader for ages, teehee..

did u know that our birthdates n deathdates should be the same? as seen in our prophet muhammad saw deathdate marked 12 rabiul awal, one should take it more than a hint!

take care and wish your family well. Allah bless!

i'm ソソ said...

salam kak D,saya tak sengaja terjumpa blog kak D..saya tersentuh hati baca entry kak D... saya begitu kagum dengan ketabahan kak D...
harap kak D dan anak-anak kak D sentiasa dirahmatiNya...amin
salam berkenalan dari oli

oldtown~Smell the Roses said...

Semoga Kak D tabah mengharungi liku-liku hidup.Lama xjenguk kat sini.Sedih sebenarnya...

silversarina said...

salam,

Anak-anak kecil memang kadangkala lebih berfikiran jauh terutama bila ada kaitan dengan insan yang mereka sayangi. Semoga D dan anak-anak terus tabah dalam kehidupan .Amin.

Anonymous said...

Al-fatihah for your darling departed.

U do not need a reason to have cake. Hope that cheered the children.

Aida.