Wednesday, February 14, 2007

Paying attention

My children love reporting what they did or what they encountered. They can tell me how the movie developed, what happened during Numeracy in school, what one sibling did to another, etc. However, it is SO exhausting listening to their stories!!!! Let me try explaining.

When we finished our dinner of macaroni and cheese, with some naan breads, my second twin son was still exclaiming how great Flushed Away was (we went to mamasarah's place earlier in the afternoon - mommies baked, kids watched DVD/ played). So, I asked him what the story was about. The thing with my twin boys is, they don't know how to summarise! Be it a paragraph of article, a story book, a movie - they'd want to tell me EXACTLY what happened, and what the characters said. Come on, mommy's gone through all the steps and procedures of summary-writing. Grrrrrr....

Nonetheless, parents should listen to their children. So, I listened. Or tried to, at least. Ironically, my eyes were glued on the TV, showing The Madness of Modern families (they showed British parents enthusiastically sending their children to latin classes, violin classes, tap dancing, ballet, french, sanskrit, drama, to name a few, that they have to check on their children's schedules if one wants to socialise/play together). There, Twin 2 was, relating to the plot of the story almost very precisely, but very exhausting to me. I nodded, I smiled, I looked in his eyes then back to the TV, I was impatiently waiting for him to end his LOOOOOOOOOONG never ending story-telling session. What irritated me most was how he used the same discourse marker repeatedly. And, at the beginning of each new idea/clause!

"Lepas tu, dia lari sampai hujung. Lepas tu, dia ambik benda tu. Lepas tu, dia tengok-tengok. Lepas tu......."

You see what I mean? Even half-listening, I could distinctively make out the same discourse marker used. So, I told him, "Try using a different word, or you don't even have to replace it with anything. Sambung je ayat tu. Ayat awak pendek-pendek. Itu pun nak guna lepas tu!" He continued the story. Every time he used lepas tu, we shouted at him, "Haaaa!". He tried controlling his words but it was obviously very difficult. After some attempts, he reverted to his old habits. I then told him, "Ok, mama tutup mata. Kalau H sebut je lepas tu, mama buka mata". Oh dear... eyes had to open so many times. No chance for forty winks!

Maybe tomorrow we'll do some storytelling lessons - discourse markers. Perhaps they have limited vocabulary, hence the repetition. Yes, tomorrow will be story telling - writing and oral. I have to help them improve their oral skills. I developed mine through public speaking and debating. I owe it to my dad. He truly trained and drilled me. He gave me motivational books when others were enjoying teenage romance (I didn't miss this though!). Carnegie, Ahmad Deedat, de Bono. I was even asked to read Dr M's The Malay Dilemma despite my lack of interest in politics... Prggghhhhh.

Pause to reflect: Perhaps, those were the things that make me the me today. It's time to do something of that sort to my off-springs. Haiya... language lessons tomorrow. Should it be English or BM?? We'll probably be bilingual!

15 comments:

Idham said...

:) would love to meet ur twins. And take over the listening bit. You see, I find it so difficult to concentrate and understand movies...and always ended up asking my children or LiL to tell me the story they hv watched.
And it is me who keep asking..."lepas tu..?, ...lepas tu?"

I will get along fine with them two!

pause to reflect:
perhaps i cant focus long enough on anything that is not interactive- like watching TV.
Reading to me is different - for I am interacting within my own mind.

idham

Kak Lady said...

Hahahaha...d...kak lady ni yang sorang tu pun tak tahan dah mendengar leteran dia & cara bercerita dia yang panjang berjela...u plak ade twins...wow...sabar ajelah...

Ajzie said...

D..'mommies baked' buat apa tuh? ..hihi...Nak receipe boleh..Nampak menarik tentu sedap nih..

D said...

idham,
yup, come and lend an ear (or two!!)

kak lady,
i have more than the twins... dugaan Illahi!

ajzie,
i forgot my camera yesterday. i think mamasarah will have them up because it was REALLY a photography session! had fun!

Mama Sarah said...

Your children are so adorable! So how did the story-telling lesson go?

azuradec said...

hello hello -im catching up with you through this blog :)

MULAN said...

they are bright & smart kids gitu...

D said...

mamasarah,
still experimenting...

azuradec,
you found me!!

mulan,
more like becok and sebok...still, Alhamduilllah

13may said...

hahha....
layan...jgn tak layan:D

Ibu said...

hahaha.... i can vividly imagine!

ajzie said...

REALLY a photography session!!..hihi teringat zaman sekolah2 lah D.. Gambar class...hihihi..

D said...

13 May,
ni tengah melayan la ni...

ibu,
bet your imagination can be relied upon!

ajzie,
u should see mamasarah with the camera!!

ruby ahmad said...

Ayo...so comel. I dengar pun rasa nak hug that twin. I have twin boys too. They gave both my hubby and I endless entertainment.

Well, it is not easy to raise kids any which way we look at it. It is serious commitment and involves plenty of sacrifices.

Hey! You debated eh? Which school. One day we should get together and work on these debates for our alma mater. I feel sorry that majority of our kids do not speak well. Of course kids with exposed and affluent parents fare better. I am now talking about the rest, yes the majority.

At the end of the day, they come out as sub-standard graduates as it is much written in the papers of late, wouldn't that directly affect us eventually in terms of the kind of services we are gonna receive?

Zakiah said...

takper D, u kan ada 2 telinga. Heheheh. Belah kanan dengar abang, belah kiri dengar adik.

Rayyan belum pandai celoteh lagik. Kalau dah pandai esok tak tau ler camner pulak.

Idham said...

-D-

:) i ada tag u ..in my latest entry...hope u sporting la ye...

idham