Thursday, October 18, 2007

Managing at home

Yesterday, I brought Mr D to a herbal practitioner. It was his request. He wanted to have an accupuncture session to relieve the bloating in his tummy. Well, the doctors couldn't do anything about it, so we're turning to various different forms of alternative treatments. The accupuncture sessions are not meant to cure the cancer, but only to help ease him from the discomfort he's experiencing.

Today, we're expecting his new bed to be sent in. Yes, that was the first thing he requested for, when the Macmillan nurse asked what equipments we wanted. It's been months since Mr D suffered backpain, and sleeping on the spring mattress provided by the landlord has not helped at all.
It is pleasing to be informed that here in the UK, there is a good amount of support provided for cancer patients. For instance, yesterday, through the occupational therapy unit, we received:
  • a bath board

  • a bath seat

  • a bath step modular

  • a rollator frame

  • a perching stool
  • a toilet frame

  • an urinal bottle

There will also be district nurses c0ming in everyday to check on Mr D. I've asked about getting a disabled sticker (he is also considered that now) but have been sent scurrying here and there like a crazy rat. The people at the hospital said to go to the GP. The GP said to ask the reception. The people at the reception said they don't know, and I'd have to come in when the Manager was in! I'll get this sorted out soon, InsyaAllah...
On a different note, I must say that I am blessed to have such wonderful people around me, Alhamdulillah. I am probably having more trouble accepting the fact that there are so many kind people offering a helping hand out there, than the news of my beloved husband's health condition. Some offer encouraging words, others offer plates of food. Some give words of advice, others give handfuls of money. Some come with smiles on their tear-streaked faces, others send text messages from afar. Some fly across the oceans from Malaysia and Qatar, others endure the long-drive on the motorway. Some scamper for the computer to check on www.pausetoreflect.blogspot.com first thing in the morning, others pick the telephone to check on the latest updates. But all in all, everyone is kind enough to give a small prayer or du'a for the best for Mr D. This is one of the biggest lesson that I have learnt - that the Almighty will always send 'somebody' to help you when you are in difficulty.
In my tahajjud prayers, the zikr that I recite at the last sujud goes like this (when translated):
"O my Lord! let my entry be by the Gate of Truth and Honor and likewise my exit by the Gate of Truth and Honor; and grant me from Thy Presence an authority to aid (me)." Surah Isra (17) verse 80.
With this, I thank the Lord for sending us well-meaning friends and relatives...



28 comments:

NJ said...

Alhamdulillah...

Anonymous said...

Hi D,

Is this about a disable badge?

You need to go to the Council which will send documents to the doctor who then verify that Mr. D(do) need the badge. Then the Council will post it to you.

All the best,

SS

Restless said...

my prayers for you and mr d.

Kak Elle said...

present and am loss for words today...take care

ajzie said...

Doa saya utk D sekeluarga..

Anonymous said...

Dear D,
When I was working in Dublin, the Occupational Therapist did the registration for the disabled badge with the doctor signing to varify. All the patient needed to do was give 2 copies of his passport sized picture. It may be different in the UK. The other way is to download the "blue badge" application from the internet. While you are at it, also look at illness benefit and see what he is entitled to.
Anyway, it is great to hear about the support you are getting, both physically and spiritually. Daily prayers for everyone.
F.

Kak Teh said...

D, just came back from our weekly sessions with Ustaz Erfino who led the doa selamat for your husband. He mentioned visiting you in Coventary. Insyaallah, our doas are with both of you.

maklang said...

semoga dipelihara Allah sentiasa..

doa kami untuk D sekeluarga...

Alang kirim salam..

juwaidah said...

Dear D,

Glad to hear that there are many assistance given to cancer patients in the UK. Hope it can ease Mr D's discomfort and pain.

Hang in there...

Raden Galoh said...

Alhamdulillah and I'm continuing my special prayers for all of you there.

You are so strong dear.

Take care.

zak said...

U r a stronglady. Our prayers r with u.

Basha said...

Heard about you from my sister; Wardi. Hang in there ok, Allah is looking after all of you. Much prayers, thoughts and loves from Melbourne.

Anonymous said...

forgive me if I am wrong but from Mr. D picture, I would like to ask if his father used to be a teacher known as cikgu hamid?

Forgive me again if I have got the wrong person....anyway my prayers for you, husband and your whole family

ruby ahmad said...

Dear D, you and family are just incredible. In many ways there are abundance of blessings. Keep fighting. My prayers insy.

Anonymous said...

Kak D,

Allow me to response to an anonymous...

Yes he is the son of cikgu Hamid. Are you his ex-student? which school? Lasalle Klang or Sentul?

;P

Anonymous said...

Be strong.... Insya'allah, everything will be fine...

cikdinz said...

alhamdulillah kak D.
dapat juga bantuan dari mereka yeik....

kc said...

salam D!

alhamdulillah dah balik ke rumah yek? moga2 lagi senang dan terurus nak menjaga mr d & anak2.

its good to know that help came in many forms. that the support for cancer patients over there is abundant and well provided. if only malaysia has the same provisional support for cancer patients do they?

take care n keep posted!

Anonymous said...

salam kak D.
lama saya tidak menjenguk blog ini (tru blog myn hubby mama sarah). terkejut + sedih saya, terkedu sekejap depan pc, be strong sis, as everybody needs you. take care. and my doa to MrD.
Semoga dipermudahkan hari-hari berikutnya. Amin...
-a friend of mamasarah-

Wiz said...

You have now another person's doa on your list. I pray with all my might for your beloved to recover from this ordeal. You are indeed a very strong woman, I don't think I am half strong as you are. Take care!

Anonymous said...

Salam D,
I am not sure whether someone have mentioned to you about the product Gamat healin. I am not quite sure about its effectiveness because i 've not tried it to cure any of my illnesses but i have seen testimonials from patients of various illnesses on TV3. Maybe you can ask the prof himself about his products. Who knows ..insyallah it can help your hubby.

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Anonymous said...

Thank you to an anonymous for replying to my question.

So Mr. D is the son of Cikgu Hamid my dearest primary teacher in La Salle Klang. In fact I know Mr. D brother by the name of Hazrin Shah if I'm not mistaken. Even my Family knows cikgu Hamid as my mother used to be a dental nurse in Sek. Simpang Lima Klang.

Anyway, my doa for Mr. D health in my every prayers that is all I can do at the moment...please stay strong.

My salams to Cikgu Hamid if he saw this comment or to anyone who can send this to him.

-azharil & family-
ex-La Salle Klang n ex-SMAWIP/SMAP

;-P

Anonymous said...

semoga Mr D cepat sembuh dan segala urusan kesihatan dan pelajaran dipermudahkan Allah.

Atenah

MULAN said...

alhamdulillah...

kami yang jauh ni hanya dapat berdoa & sentiasa berdoa..

Kak Lady said...

Salam buat D...lama benar kak lady tak menjengah kemari...terlalu banyak yang kak lady ketinggalan...

Sorry to hear about Mr. D's condition...tapi alhamdulillah d dpt menghadapinya dengan tabah...biarpun kak lady yang membacanya berlinangan airmata mengenang hari2 & dugaan yang harus d hadapi...

Kak lady doakan agar diberikan kekuatan dan ketabahan serta harap kesihatan Mr. D akan bertambah baik...Insyaallah...

ShAz said...

may all d strength be with u kak D.
berat mata memandang..berat lagi bahu yg memikul..may Allah make things easier for u..for ur husband..and for the rest of ur family.

Love,
ShAz,leicester

Anonymous said...

Salam, u dont know me, but i was told of your trial from Allah by a close friend of yours. As an alternative health practitioner, you have my prayers for your husband, yourself and your family. My team n I will pray for your husband inshaallah. We believe strongly in the power of DOA TO ALLAH. What more, I also come from a teacher's family in Klang, and we know his father. Hang on in there...ukhti fillah.